Dear reader,
Have you ever:
stared into space only to find your own perplexed reflection?
spent 20 minutes looking for your something, you swear! only to forget what you were looking for in the first place?
started an easy project and suddenly felt the weight of the world on you with no first steps in sight?
Of course you have. (you have, right? 🫣)
Being tongue tied, losing our train of thought, and related blunders are a common experience.
We can have all the tools and education at our hands and still fall short of our goal because of what I only know how to describe as “checking out”
you know, checking out!
And that checking out leads to your brain on mute when you need it to complete your next task 😬
Let me help you check back IN
👉 with this week’s lesson
(courtesy yet again of my commitment to actually taking the advice I get in therapy)
try the end first
1⃣ THE PROBLEM 🧐
your brain is silent when you need it the most
You’re capable.
You’re educated.
Experienced, even.
So why can’t you get that subject line right for the email to your client?
How come YESTERDAY you knew everything about anatomy, but when it comes to the exam this morning, you’re back in Kindergarten brain?
Your doctor said you need to take better care of yourself to be healthy in old age, yet this pamphlet he gave you reads like gibberish…
Likely, your brain has chosen to freeze.
This is a problem. A simple, but very common problem that ultimately boils down to tension that you must overcome.
yes, that’s it. sometimes our problems are annoyingly simple.
2⃣ A REALIZATION 🧠
we just need to cut the tension
Last week, I had writer’s block.
“ok, business Mom. and?”
y’all cackling when you throw my advice back in my face
ANYWAYS, I had writer’s block for real.
and yet—
I brought you a hard-hitting lesson on getting through life’s curveballs.
How you ask?
I tried the end first. Meaning—
I wasn’t sure which lesson I was going to teach yet
No GIFs were sourced
the tension between me and this newsletter was palpable, and not in a fun way
I could have skipped a week or started a panic spiral to revisit my long-lost friend perfectionism.
Instead, with my therapist’s voice in mind, I started by—
taking a “deep breath to calm the anxiety”
typing “Until next week,”
adding the inspiring advice on my mind from Cristina Jerome
and closing my newsletter.
LITERALLY. Until later that week the first line was “until next week” lol
Then, I closed it for a day
& came back with a fresh mind, ready to write.
⭐️ BONUS LESSON - when you have the option, life is easier when you don’t wait until the last minute to hit deadlines. You have more time to cool off from your tension and prevent yourself from a tech issue tanking your submission at the critical hour.
3⃣ A SOLUTION ✨
try the end first
then set a path to reach it
Much like last week, this is “easy to understand, and difficult to put into practice.”
You must simply—
picture the MAIN point of your desired outcome
visualize that until you can feel it
take ONE step, just one, to reach it
then, keep that end in mind while you fill in the gaps
It’s not just for writer’s block. You can use this to—
stop panicking about reaching your goals before old age
a walk today is stronger hips tomorrow, done!
make progress on that project
yeah, the logo isn’t done, but I’ve got the size, colors, and font down!
keep yourself in check when working towards a goal
eyes on the prize
getting 5% of the final product gives you progress
None of your efforts matter if you aren’t working towards the RIGHT goal, so keep it in mind.
4⃣ NUANCE is BACK, baby!
If you absolutely cannot picture the end, remember WHY you’re doing this and start with that
life is a lot less complicated that we tend to make it
some of life's problems are BIG and SCARY and SUPER out of your control; there’s other advice for those problems. Remember we are just solving that brain freeze that keeps us from starting / continuing initiatives.
Until next week,
just because they have a TikTok does not mean they have licensure 😬
just because they have licensure doesn’t mean they’re good at their job 👀
& always read the fine print 💅
Love,
your business Mom
back like you left something 😏
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