My dearest reader,
Let what I say go in one ear and out the other if it must, because—
it will still cross your mind 😏
We need to define what we mean by:
“just passing through” 🍂
It’s a phrase quietly weaponized to disguise reality.
It seems truly innocent.
It’s often even meant innocently.
👩🦳: “Don’t mind me; I’m just passing through.”
🤷♂ : “I didn’t see anything. I was just passing through.”
Yet, these dismissive statements miss what it means to pass through.
No matter how small, your presence makes an impact.
When you’re passing through,
then you’re also passing on
a shallow footprint.
👀 Yes, that was a haiku (I think).
💓 No, I will not apologize.
1⃣ A Problem: you think it’s nothing.
This whole lesson was sparked by an old conversation with my dad that crossed my mind while I was doing meal prep last week.
(Yes, she’s healthy or whatever 🤩)
💫 Cue dramatic lighting, begin flashback to 2018.
👨🏻:
“Anna, people are going to give you SO many opinions on how to parent. Ultimately, you and Ryan are the only two people who know what’s best for your family.”
💁🏻♀️:
“So what do I do when someone is lecturing me about my parenting and I know they’re not right then?”
👨🏻:
“Let it go in one ear and out the other”
2⃣ A Realization: you’re minimizing it.
(Sorry dad, you were still right though! Bear with me.)
I liked his idea.
It has solid legs:
listen to the (wrong) person
mentally delete what they said
The issue?
The middle part
You know, the middle part: that part where it crosses your mind on it’s way out.
A few weeks ago, I realized I was drowning in noise.
For context on that, review the video 👇
(and to continue this lesson scroll right on past 😀)
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The noise was built by doubts that were not even mine.
I was letting them just pass through, but their increasing volume left an impact on my mind.
It was embarrassing to admit that I let the opinions of others get in my head—
but then it shifted from embarrassing to enlightening… and I asked Siri to send this text to myself so I would not lose the thought:
EVEN IF YOU LET ITGO IN ONE EAR AND OUT THE OTHER?! IT STILL CROSSED YOUR MIND.
Suddenly, it made sense.
We may not CARE what other people say, but we still hear it.
We may not value someone’s opinion, but we still processed it.
A footprint left in our mind, ripe for discovery when we are feeling lost and looking for something, anything to follow.
3⃣ A Solution: acknowledge & release
You cannot pretend that you did not perceive the misaligned thought.
the gossip you had no business tuning into
a private conversation between NOT you and NOT you #2
scathing, harsh criticism of you or your work.
What you CAN do is:
Acknowledge that you felt, heard, or saw it.
Process any feelings that brings up.
Detach, and release it.
AKA let it actually pass through.
Until next week ✌
love thy neighbor
FEED your hungry neighbors (if you can 🙏 )
don’t forget to raise the standard in everything you do.
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And Season 2 is already in the works!
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👀 and how do I follow along?
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