Oh hey, business fam 😊
🫶 I didn’t forget about you.
I was just carrying the weight of the world…
and I learned a lot,
so let’s get into it with our first lesson of 2026.
And yes, after two months of silence, your business Mom has a lot to say!
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For my longtime readers, you know I share:
solutions (with context) to life (and business) problems.
And as Xevi would say… Anna had a problem.
The Problem: time is relative
Last year, I brought more ideas to life in the span of 11 months than I have in the past several years.
I finally got willing to experiment, fail, and keep trying.
I got out of my shell.
This newsletter even started as an experiment.
I needed a place to express myself and offer the lessons I wanted to share with the world, so I created a beehiiv account and just WENT FOR IT.
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In the process of 👇
starting this newsletter,
THEN the podcast,
getting huge PR features,
starting an agency,
and so many personal milestones,
I found myself able to do 10x more than I had before.
It was incredible, but it was not stable.
The problem is, time really is relative.
On a day where I was feeling energized, I could:
publish a newsletter
batch my next 2 weeks of lessons for y’all ❤
finish all my client work before that
spend extra time with my kids
learn a new skill
lay out my workout clothes for the next day
and basically feel like a BOSS.
^ how I was feeling on a “good day” (most days)
Yet, when the flu took me out (multiple strains, multiple times) or my house was a literal biohazard (thank God we moved) or I lost a loved one or so many of my friends and community members started living in fear of just going to get groceries and not making it home after…
yeah, I didn’t feel so full of time and energy.
What suffered when I found myself less efficient?
Well, this very community I worked so hard to build.
(…and on occassion, my sleep schedule…)
I thought (from my good days) that I had all the time in the world with my newfound sense of energy and time management skills.
In reality, after months of strong consistency, I found myself having to push back a lesson or podcast episode time and time again.
I was feeling the weight of the world, for lack of a less poetic or dramatic way to describe the challenges of last year.
I’m almost 30, so I learned to prioritize the #1 priorities first.
Those are my family, my health, and my client work. Non negotiable every time.
just call me Dom because I don’t play about my family
And to be honest?
(what kind of (business) Mom would I be if not honest?)
I was living in the classic trap of “what’s urgent” and not much else.
Time started feeling less abundant with opportunity, and more a prison of my own making.
I fell victim to a sense of helplessness
Each day, I found myself hoping for some kind of “relief.”
A realization: relief is not the answer
When things started to get difficult, I clung to my typical solutions to a problem like this (that usually work):
better systems
a more succinct schedule
asking for help when I need it
working a whole lot, and then even more than that
BUT, I forgot my cardinal rule.
A system—even when flawlessly designed—only works when YOU work WITH it.
I was making meetings manageable. I was only taking on the work I could handle. I was even learning to collaborate more and build intentionally. I was doing the right things. They helped a bit each day.
Yet, I found myself leaning on my fantastical idea that these changes would walk over to my metaphorical bench and take that heavy, world-sized weight right off my shoulders.
spoiler: it did not come.
We all deserve relief, but I’ve realized that the systems in which we exist are not set up for us to have that when we need it most.
I wanted relief. What I needed was pressure.
Let me explain!
The Solution: eyes on the prize
Nobody is waiting around with a magic wand to solve all your problems.
EVEN IF THEY WERE—I’ve told you before, another shoe will always drop.
Relief does not permanently “arrive.”
^ y’all reading this because you thought I had the answers
Instead, you can increase the ratio of EASE to CHALLENGE on the day-to-day by keeping your eyes on the prize.
APPLY THAT PRESSURE.
I do not mean:
endless perfectionism
being unkind to yourself
or working endlessly until things get better.
Instead I (tough-lovingly) suggest:
building a bare-minimum routine you can handle, even on the hard days
adding accomplishments to that when you do have those golden moments where time feels infinite
taking daily (or at least weekly) stock of where you’re sailing vs. failing so you can pivot fast, and never let time get the best of you
without taking accountability for what you cannot control, leaning in to any mindset or behavior you can improve to handle these challenges better
applying pressure in the moments you feel most like giving up, because you deserve a chance to try anyway
The world feels a collective heaviness right now.
Most—if not all—of you don’t need me to list the insane combination of atrocity and pain facing humanity right now.
(Like I said about SINNERS, nobody needs a white lady think piece on this.)
If I’m being brutally honest though, and I promised I would…
For lack of a professional way to say this, shit’s never been sweet.
Our world is beautiful, and filled with joy and love.
It also harbors a lot of guilt, pain, and stress that people weaponize in their worst moments to hurt others in hope of some relief.
It’s okay to feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders.
🫂
It probably is.
It’s an injustice, and quite frankly you don’t deserve that.
We all have struggles, some way more than others.
My hope is to empower you to face those struggles with a healthy combination of realism AND optimism. Now we wait act and see if we met that goal.
until next week ✌
I would like to remind you again to talk to your elders more.
No date on a calendar can tell you when to start a better life.
Life is a highway, and I wanna drive it all night long.
For my new readers, this is where I often share updates, announcements, and all the real tea 🫖
And we are back, so stay tuned next week.